And my 5 of 8? Well, he would be some still, deep waters.
He likes to tell people that he is the quiet one of the family, which, frankly, in our cacophonous clan, doesn't really mean a whole lot.
Except that he is. He's the quiet one.
I took him on a mommy/son date recently, chatting to him non-stop as we drove down the road, asking him about his dreams, his goals, his ideas.
After about 10 minutes of monosyllabic answers to his mother's inquiries, 5 of 8 drew a deep breath and said, "Mom, I'm really not into this talking thing so much."
Ah, yes, the strong silent type.
So when 5 of 8 develops a passion, it's a deep one. And for 5 of 8, that deep passion would reside in all things video games. He has a deep and abiding adoration for all things Cube and Wii and DS, Nintendo that is. And this week, I learned how one's passion and one's unspoken emotions can meet.
5 of 8 kept asking me to come upstairs to see something he had made on the Wii. Please understand, I have done my fair share of 'ooohing' and 'aaahing' over the video games victories and ninja moves my children love to show me. I really do try for a level of enthusiasm in my voice, even when I have no clue why it would be so amazing that Mario can now execute the Final Smash. So, I put 5 of 8 off a bit as I assumed I would be seeing more of the same.
But I was wrong.
When I finally made it up to the video game viewing area, I found that 5 of 8 had been busy on We Ski, the t.v. screen his canvas, the Wii his palette.
And Grammy was his muse.Grammy is 5 of 8's paternal great-grandmother. She passed away almost a year ago at the age of 96. Her birthday is next week and the one year anniversary of her passing is at the end of February.
When she died last year, 5 of 8 never said much. We went through the process, celebrating her memorial, M leading the service. Grammy was adored and is much missed. But 5 of 8 has never said much about it.
Until now.

Because what I found was that 5 of 8 had made a slide show of Miis on We Ski depicting Grammy on the ski slopes. He depicted her zipping down powder covered trails, making a wild jump, hamming it up for the camera, relaxing in a hot tub.

And posing with 5 of 8 beneath a brightly lit Christmas tree.

In life, I don't think Gram ever hit the slopes. She was many things, but a snow bunny she was not. But now, now that she has been released from the confines of this life, she lives anew for 5 of 8. She's his skiing buddy. She makes wicked awesome jumps. She's earning points for style and difficulty.
And for 5 of 8, he's now been able to write his memoir of his Grammy. He's been able to depict her sense of fun and sass.
And he's been able now to show her how very, very much he misses her.
Still waters.
They do run deep.
Wow, that's one special young man you have there!
ReplyDeleteYou are so right. Still waters DO run deep. I have one just like that.
ReplyDeleteOh, that chokes me up. I'm the quiet one of my sibs and I remember trying to explain to my mother (super outgoing) that just because we don't talk doesn't mean we don't feel. It's quite the opposite.
ReplyDeleteThat is extraordinary on so many levels, my eyes are leaking. I find it astounding that he was able to channel all of that into something that is fun!!
ReplyDeleteOn another note the more posts I see about Wii the more I think I would like to get one (not a video game fan here).
thanks for the peak into 5 of 8's heart.
That is just beautiful.
ReplyDeleteWow...that brought tears to my eyes! I really love the Wii (Santa brought the kids one at Christmas), but this is way more awesome than anything we've done with it. 5 of 8 sounds like an amazing young man.
ReplyDeleteThat is so cool. A way to have fun and cherish the memory of his Gram.
ReplyDeleteWe love the Wii, but I've never heard of Wii Ski. Might have to look that one up!
This is just lovely!
ReplyDeletePersonally, I have a natural antipathy towards computer games. My other half is limited to one evening a week. Yet, Phoebe at four years old seems to really enjoy playing them with him! What to do?
Such a great post!
What a sweet post and a sweet tribute to his Granny.
ReplyDeleteGreat...now I am crying!
ReplyDeleteWonderful. Your son has kept the memory of his granny alove in an original and incredibly moving way. What great memories he must have of his granny. :)
ReplyDeleteHis passion for the Nintendo things can give him alot of avenues for later careers too (hubby was an Atari, Super NES freak as a kid too - and now works in the graphics/programming industry).
I can't believe my eyes just teared up from a Wii Ski avatar. But that is truly so special.
ReplyDeleteWe helped ours through the loss of their great grandfather a few years ago, and it always amazes me how they work on the loss in the background for quite a long time. Then, out of the blue, one of them will ask a question or say they're reminded of Great Papa by something that at first seems so unrelated. It lets us know he still lives in their hearts, just like he lives in ours.
Those are the times I can feel him smiling down at us all.
- Julia
That is so sweet. I love that he thought things through on his own and figured it out the only way he knew how. Long live Granny (on the slopes and off)!
ReplyDeleteAs the mom of two who aren't exactly "still waters" but who adore their 92 year-old great-grandpa passionately, this made me weep.
ReplyDeleteKiss 5 for me.
Oh, my. We never know how our children will choose to express themselves. What an awesomely personal tibute your 5 of 8 gave his Gram! I think it's rad that he chose to depict her enjoying life!
ReplyDeleteLove, Love, love the strong silent types.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteMrs. Nurse Boy
so sweet. this truly made me smile.
ReplyDeleteI married a strong silent type and must say they make wonderful husbands and best friends!
I am so glad to see that I am not the only one who found myself choking back tears at this post. I felt silly about it, but I can see that it is the natural response from many of us.
ReplyDeleteChildren are so complex...
Ok, *sniff *sniff, wipes a tear and thinks what a special young man. Bless him is all i say. What a great little guy. 5 of 8 you rock ;)
ReplyDeleteThis post is really just...wonderful.
ReplyDeleteYep, I have tears, too! We got a Wii after much hunting around and sold our playstation 2. I have to admit that both my husband and I and apparently both of our sons are video game fans, but not always on the same kinds of games. The wii is fun cuz we have family bowling, Oh YEAH! What a creative outlet for your kiddo! I love that he's got her bustin' moves. That's the way I feel about my granny! She'll never get old to me and she's in her 70's.:)
ReplyDeleteHis heart is beautiful, as was this post. Damn tears....
ReplyDeleteWhat a creative way to express himself. A very special man. Boy this made me tear up.
ReplyDeleteThat gives me goosebumps!!! It is so cool that you just let him be him, and look what he has done. I think we often "push" our kids, out of love of course. It is really cool to see what happens when they just simmer in their own thoughts and ideas!
ReplyDeleteSuch a sweet young man he is!
ReplyDeleteVery sweet! I glaze over with video games, so it's nice to see something meaningful come out of this...
ReplyDeleteI have a few quiet, thoughtful ones, too. That is SUCH a sweet tribute by him. What a neat way to cope and still feel close to his grammy.
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness, that was so sweet!
ReplyDeleteOh my, that brought a tear to my eye. How very sweet.
ReplyDeleteHe is a very special child, has so much of you both in him!
ReplyDeleteWhat a lovely little boy. Tell us more about him!
ReplyDeleteWhat a beautiful post. Your son sounds adorable! AND, he is very creative : ).
ReplyDeleteThat is so sweet. I'll bet Grammy is up in Heaven laughing and showing her WiiMii off to all her friends!
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ReplyDeleteThat's so cool. We forget sometimes our kids need to find their own form of expression for emotions and each one will be different. What a special dude:)
ReplyDeleteHow special and sweet. Even with 36 comments already posted, I had to add my own. 5 of 8 sounds like a very special person. I felt a tug on my heart as I read this.
ReplyDeleteRoban
I have one of those still waters. This was a special post.
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful, sweet, tribute!! :)
ReplyDeleteThat is the cutest thing ever. I love his skiing buddy.
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