Thursday, November 20, 2014

Birthday Boy

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The oldest of the male set of the OctaKids, our 3 of 8, Justus Carr. Protective, snarky, kind, comedic, zany, thoughtful, storyteller. 18 years ago today, you arrived into the world into our arms and your older sisters' delight and exuberant zeal to have a baby brother. So proud of the man you are. We love you!

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Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Birthday Girl

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This girl. Our surprise, bust-the-ten-year-plan, hilarious, confident, strong, hilarious, Francophile, hilarious, jazz vocalist of a daughter. You introduced us to this parenting gig 24 years ago today, undoing and redoing all our yuppy plans...and we could not be more grateful. Love you, Baby. Happy birthday!!!!

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Tuesday, November 11, 2014

Tuesday, November 4, 2014

52 Years Ago Today...

**Note: Today marks the 52nd anniversary of my parents' wedding. As many of you know, my dad passed away last December. Sure would appreciate your thoughts and love for my mom this year. This following is a repost from a few years ago...**

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48 years. Today.

Anniversary.

Those gorgeous people up there are my parents and today marks the forty-eighth spin of the calendar since they spoke their marital vows.

I'm thankful for a legacy of commitment and covenant.

From their first blind date back at Mississippi State to living on both sides of the continent and several points in between, they have traversed terrain of three kids, multiple moves, health issues, crazy Christmases, business challenges and achievements, dogs, cats and even the occasional hamster.

Mom and Daddy, I salute.

And thank you.

I love you.

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Friday, October 24, 2014

Feed Your Faith



Got a little vlog for you this morning on parenting from power, not fear. Are you creating an empowering protectiveness in your parenting...or is it a paranoid protectiveness?

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Thursday, September 4, 2014

Silver Honeymoon

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Just warning you ahead of time that this post may be a bit cheesy. And sentimental. And obnoxious.

So there's that.

You've been warned.

But just wanted to share some thoughts and pictures from our time on the Riviera Maya for our Silver Honeymoon.

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It's a case of 'do as I say and not as I do'...while I tell people all the time that they need to take time away for their marriages, Mike and I have had a tough time actually making it happen.

We're pretty good about the quick getaway locally for a night or two.

But this trip was the longest we've ever been away.

Ever.

Our original honeymoon was five days.

We stayed a week for our Silver Honeymoon.

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And in my true bargain-hunting-clothing-and-feeding-and-educating-a huge family-and-married-to-a-financial-advisor kind of way, I was all twisted up about the finances of the thing and the time away from work and on and on.

But you know what I figured out?

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Our marriage and the health of our marriage is what makes all that other stuff roll. And for things to be healthy, they need an investment. An investment of time. And treasure. And sometimes checkbook.  And to be celebrated.

So we went.

And it was awesome.

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We went to the Riviera Maya to Zoetry Paraiso De La Bonita. It's a small resort about 20 minutes from Cancun. We came to the area 25 years ago for our original honeymoon.

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We wanted somewhere quiet and peaceful. Let me rephrase.

I wanted somewhere quiet and peaceful.

Mike was willing to accomodate me.

The Introvert/Extrovert Marriage. I should probably write a book about that.

I'm an introvert who everyone thinks is an extrovert.

And Mike is the very definition of extrovert.

Mike was late to our wedding because he stopped to help someone change their flat tire. True story.
My mom was ripping her hair out...

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I can't say enough about the amazing staff at Zoetry Paraiso De La Bonita, about their incredible kindness and attention to detail and how hard they worked to celebrate with us and to make us comfortable and cared for. Yes, the resort itself is gorgeous and the food outrageously good and the setting incredible.

But it was the precious people of Zoetry who made it all come together.

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We rested. We laughed. We talked about our favorite moments over the last twenty-five years.

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We were humbled.

Radically humbled.

Because more than ever, we know that we didn't bring some magic skill set to the table when we said our 'I do's' twenty-five years ago. We each brought a lot of self and big personality and stubbornness and pride and ambition to the deal.

It could have been a colossal failure.

I know our premarital counselor sure thought it would be.

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And we don't assume that hitting the Silver mark magically protects our bond. We've seen marriages younger than ours falter and stumble. And we've seen marriages more mature than ours shockingly implode. We've seen marriages that seemed more spiritual and capable and steady crumble. We've seen it happen.

So what to do?

We fight. We flare. We laugh. We smile. We squabble. We blow it. We try again.

We grow.

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We met several couples at the resort. We were regarded as somewhat legendary with our twenty-five year anniversary designation going on.

And you can imagine when they heard the number of kids. That took us to some kind of freakishly mythic level...

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They would ask what the secret was, how to make it stick. They worried about the seven-year-itch and how kids and careers might change their relationships.

I'm sure it would have been far better for a person like me in ministry to answer that praying together thirty minutes a day was the answer or that going on mission trips or reading the Bible to each other at bedtime was all the secret sauce. Spirit secret sauce.

But Mike and I have managed to have fights over passages of Scripture we're studying. And we've had temper flares in the midst of ministering to others. And we've used an arrogance at times with each other that we've tried to pass off as something theological.

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This we may have managed to figure out.

Fighting for the relationship is different than plain old fighting. And God's mercy and patience with us seems to show up when we bring that distinction.
Our relationship is boisterous laughter and genuine friendship and bickering both silly and serious and odd movies and gut-busting comedy and mushy sentimentality and good books and crazy chemistry and the occasional throw-down.

And God.

And fighting for it.

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So we celebrated all that.

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Michael, thank you for putting up with me and supporting me and letting me have lots of babies. And for dealing with me when I work too much. And dream a lot. And write.  And accept too many speaking dates. And put off cleaning the kitchen.  And take pictures. And drive you crazy. A little. And a lot.

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It is my joy and honor to be able to say, after a quarter century, "I still do..."

I love you.

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